Master has a first name its C-O-N-T-R-O-L

If you have read my post on the word “Master” then you will understand what I am about to say. “I did not claim you, as is my usual way, because is is not what you need right now”.  

I am in am open relationship with my girl. This means that we have the option of playing ( both sexual and platonic BDSM) with other Doms or subs as the case may be. We have ground rules. We have protocols. We have some things are negotiated just for us. 

One of my protocols is for my girl to make sure my needs as her Master are met before playing elsewhere. I would not play with another unless my girl was fully taken care of as well. It signifies the primary relationship between us. We have until recently only played separately when I have been out of town so this particular protocol has not been fully put into practice. 

Tonight my girl went to play with what I am hoping will be a regular Dom play partner. He has shown the utmost respect for our primary relationship going so far as to involve me in the teasing process. He understands the situation and is in my opinion a true Master as well. 

So when my girl started getting nervous about this play date I could tell. See when she get unsure or nervous about things she begins to bratt, becomes snappy and gets an agitated agressive tone to her.  She began this process well as she began to get ready to go. I take it that as she said “ we haven’t done this with you in town I am use to getting ready alone”. 

There is was the root of the Brattitude.  She is unsure of the aftermath. Other times it has caused great issues with her SO after the fact. You know the type.... the ones that call themselves “poly” or “swingers” but really are doing it to either please their SO or have never really understood what it means. They are the ones with out compersion. They are what my girl has had before. Men who have said they were good with it only to find these men turn on her. We have talked at length about it. 

So when my darling girl became bratty and snarky I though that this is not the time to press my ownership, flex my Dominace, or demand she stick to protocol. It is the time to let her feel this.... to see that I mean everything I said...... That I DO feel compersion and happiness that she is experiencing the style of another good Dom. ..... and that nothing around here will change. Well besides that serving two honorable and creative Doms may be more than she bargained for. 

As a Master my first rule is self control. If I can not look past my personal desires to what my girl is in need of.....then I am not her Master. If i can not master deferring my own personal gratification for her development..... I am not her Master. 

SO “ “I did not claim you, as is my usual way, because it is not what you need right now.” I said as I kissed her.“ However, when you return home my girl, I will leave you no doubt who you belong to”.