One Drop

There use to be a standard for being African American.  One drop of Negro blood, to use the terms of the time, made a person a Negro under the law.  The outer appearance of the person meant nothing. The shade of their skin didn’t matter. As featured in a fascinating radio program about East Jackson Ohio near Wavily Ohio found here:  
http://www.prx.org/pieces/85361-pike-county-ohio-as-black-as-we-wish-to-be  

Most of the residents appear Irish decent.  Having one Negro ancestor, they are considered legally black. This speaks to the absolutism that governed race relations to this very  day Being determined an African American placed you subject to all the biases, segregation and prejudices racist whites had to offer. Absolute hatred of a race defined any blood “polluted” with that race as inferior. 

So what does this have to do with the fetish / swing / kink world?  There is a similar bias about the sexual orientation of men. There seems to be a “one cock /one drop of cum” bias in general western culture as a defining mark of homosexuality. It is worse the more conservative you go.  Hell even touching another mans junk, intentional or not , seems to miraculously change a man’s orientation as pop culture were concerned.  The ass , especially on the football field, is fair game of coarse. 

In studying CBT, Dominating a male or a MMF swing situation, if a man is less concerned about the sex organs and more concerned with the connections, ebb and flow of energies, or open to the experience at hand, as in my case, and comes in contact with another cock then they are by some accounts deemed in fact to be homosexual or at least bisexual.  While this same convention often is also applied to females it is not as rigidly applied. Two girls kissing and touching can often be played off as “teasing the boys” while to boys kissing is often automatically and absolutely judged as “gay”. 

I am not saying this as an altruism. There are those in society that are more understanding in the non ridged nature of human sexuality. That we in fact inhabit a range of orientation not just one absolute unchanging  state. I am saying that socially men are more harshly regimented in sexual definition.  So is it really a “one cock rule”?